What if you were enough?
Do you remember when you started to believe that you weren’t absolutely perfect? It probably began before you could even speak, it was probably before you could walk.
Chances are you were born believing in yourself and slowly, imperceptibly you began to believe that you weren’t enough. It is almost impossible for us as humans surrounded by media, magazines, internet, reality tv and even, perhaps most damaging, family all reminding us of faults.
I often ask my students to listen to how they speak to themselves and ask them if they’d like to sit down and have a coffee with the voice in their head. Imagine your friend spoke to you the way you speak to yourself, it wouldn’t be a friendship you would nurture and cherish and yet we speak to ourselves in that way!
The relationship that you have with yourself is the most important relationship you will ever have. You spend every waking and sleeping moment with yourself. So long as you draw breath, you are in this relationship.
Be kind to you.
Be compassionate to you.
Treat YOU as you would a child finding its way in this world. Would you berate a child for trying something new and failing? So why would you berate yourself? Would you berate a child for being afraid of new experiences? No, you would gently encourage and guide the child, so why not you too?
Be gentle with yourself and guide yourself to see the perfection of who you are in this exact moment. Not yesterday, not tomorrow, not later, right now. In this moment allow yourself to see how absolutely magnificent you are.
See the beauty of yourself and love the person that you are.
Believe in you.
Don’t set lofty goals of never judging yourself again, set the simple goal of loving yourself in this moment. When things don’t turn out the way you planned don’t judge yourself for failing, love yourself for trying. Subtly day by day shift your perception away from your flaws and focus on your strengths.
A funny thing happens when you stop judging you. You stop judging me too. The thing about loving yourself, being compassionate and kind to yourself is that it makes it harder, if not impossible, to judge others. Gossip feels like sandpaper in your mouth. You start to see, feel and act LOVE. The people you see gossiping, being nasty, angry and aggressive are the people who have the least self-love.
So start small, start in this moment.
Right now, right here, as I read this sentence I am enough. I do enough. I have enough.
Wishing you all the good stuff for the week ahead.